Friday, February 16, 2018

Hajj 1437H - A beautiful journey...Part 4 - Madinah

Part 4 - Madinah

I always like Madinah... the city is well planned and people living there is much calmer...

Ten years ago when I first visited Madinah... the hotel buildings around Masjid Nabawi were new... but now... the sign of ageing can be clearly seen... the roads have not resurfaced for quite sometime... but there is a new rule regarding masjid nabawi... previously, the masjid is closed after Isya prayers but now the masjid opens 24 hours... good for the pilgrims...

Normally Tabung Haji will allocate about 8 to 9 days stay in Madinah... this is to allow the pilgrims to perform at least 40 congregation prayers in the Mosque...

No specific obligations one has to perform in Madinah... the reason why pilgrims come to Madinah is to visit Masjid Nabawi... where the Prophet's and his companions graves lie... all Muslims want to say their salaam to the Prophet and his companions...

One thing special about Masjid Nabawi is that there is a place called Raudhah in the mosque... Raudhah is a place between Prophet's house and the pulpit where he gave his sermon... it is narrated that Raudhah is among the garden of heaven.. that is why many pilgrims really want to preform prayers there... but getting in there is no easy task... many people queue up to get in there...in the old days... we rushed to get in there and once you are in Raudhah nobody wants to leave.... but now there is a system... pilgrims are only allowed to stay around 20 minutes in Raudhah
before the police ask you to leave... all in all... one has to wait about 40 minutes to 1 hour before entering into Raudhah... but the same cannot be said to the ladies.... but now they got better chances at entering into Raudhah...

Programs arranged by Rayhar for Madinah is normal... visit to jabal Uhud... where the important battle took place, visit to the mosque with 2 qiblats and tamar market...etc etc... apart from that the pilgrims arranged for their own programs... mostly eating Mandy rice...mutton especially...

I really valued my stay in Madinah... since not many people go the mosque after 9 am... I will go there especially trying to get in Raudhah... my friend Haji Saiful is an expert at entering Raudhah... I think he went into Raudhah 4 times a day... just his rezeki... I managed to get my fair share of performing solat in Raudhah...Alhamdulliah...

The rest of the time...apart from the obligatory prayers, I will go to the Masjid to perform dhuha prayers and recite al-Quran in the morning and after Isyak prayers... one thing special about Masjid Nabawi... there are many scholars...and after obligatory prayers... they will teach the pilgrims to recite proper Fatehah...

As the time time in Madinah is rather short... only 9 days... the time passes very fast...we don't have much to pack as most of our luggage was sent back to Malaysia before we left Makkah to Madinah... Saudi Air is rather strict on the luggage weight...only 30kg per luggage...

A day before departure, all our checked in luggage were collected leaving only hand luggage... just enough clothing for 1 day...

Finally... as scheduled... the day for us to leave Madinah arrived... I went to the Mosque again in the morning to say goodbye to the Prophet and as always... made a dua that I will be invited again to this pleasant place... my heart is always at ease when I am in Makkah or Madinah...

That is all that I can dearly remember... which I will remember for a long long time...

My truly wish is that my Hajj is accepted by Allah...insyaAllah...

Shahar
Taman Melawati
Feb 2018







Hajj 1437H - A beautiful journey...Part 3 - the Hajj

Part 3 - the Hajj

The tarwiyah days have finally arrived.... 8 Zulhijjah 1437...

Big day... going to Arafah
Rayhar's pilgrims from Ritaj As Safwah hotel was led by Ustaz Zulkarnian Hamzah.... before the journey to Arafah.... all Rayhar's pilgrims were gathered and Haji Harun, Ustaz Rosli and Ustaz Zul repeated the whole hajj process again, what to expect, what to bring etc etc... Haji Harun kept repeating...senyum (or smile in English).... a way telling us that sometime things will not go as planned and we must be ready to face the challenges

Note: Rayhar has a very large team of assistants to provide assistance in Makkah led by Ayahanda Haji Harun the owner, Ustaz Rosli, the chief religious officer. The team is fully prepared to ensure pilgrims comfort.
In the Arafah camp site

Since all of us decided to pay slightly extra for the 5 important days, we were allowed to be separated from Tabung Haji muassasah group.... we got special treatment when we were in Arafah as well as in Mina... apart from better accommodation, buffet food is served daily and the distance between our accommodation and jamraat is closer... just about 1.5 km.. and most important of all, we manage our own transport instead of sharing with the muassasah group… thus our movement is faster compared to others...

When I first performed my hajj with Batuta Travel in 2006, our movement began from Makkah to Arafah for wukuf, then from Arafah to Muzdalifah for mabit, after that to Mina for stone throwing at Jamraat before going back to Makkah for tawaf and saie thus completing our Hajj... We have to share bus with muassasah pilgrims… very challenging since at that time the Saudi govt introduced the 'taradudiyah' system or shuttle bus system … where the bus will take us from Arafah to Muzdalifah and drop us there and turn around to pick up other pilgrims in Arafah... we have to wait for another bus to take us from Muzdalifah to Mina for the next trip... very messy... a lot of pilgrims were worried about their luggage and for the old and weak… they did not get proper rest…

This time round, we started from Makkah to Arafah for wukuf, then go to Muzdalifah for mabit and immediately come back back to Makkah to perform tawaf and saie before going to Mina for stone throwing at the Jamraat... the difference is once we completed the tawaf and saie as well as cutting our hairs then we have completed the “rukun haji' which means we have completed the requirement of performing the hajj …  and no longer has to observe the ihram rules (13 larangan ihram) .... we are free to continue with our normal life… except that we have to complete the stone throwing at Jamraat in Mina….

A few days before our hajj days bagin, Ustaz Zul reminded us to bring ropes, small battery operated fan, adult diapers fearing the bus stuck in the jam... (note: the jam can be very bad and nowhere to stop) ...

All the ladies rushed to Bin Dawoud and pharmacies to buy whatever things they required... 2 days before tarwiyah...adult diapers were sold out in Makkah...

[Note: Medicine and pharmaceutical products are very expensive in Makkah....]

Our buddies... in Arafah
My wife and I were ready both spiritually and physically for this important event ... this time we only took a small hand carry bags since we will come back to Makkah in 2 days time... another couple Haji Azmi and his wife Hajah Mimi decided to tag closely with us... may be because they are confident in us as we had the experience of performing the hajj before... our bus left Makkah shortly after asar and we arrived in Arafah without any incidence...

Note: Actually, this year both army and police were on high alert... Saudi government really didn't want any issues unlike the previous year where there was a stampede near the Jamraat …. many pilgrims from Iran died... (in fact this year due to some misunderstanding between the two governments, there were no pilgrims from Iran) …. any unauthorised vehicles are not allowed to enter at these places at all... 

The camp in Arafah was actually very nice... we were given mattress each and the place was not really cramped.... actually, there was nothing much to do at all in Arafah... in fact what is required is for one just to be in Arafah for a short time anytime between zohor right to subuh the next day... short time means the length of a blink of an eye... that how short it can be .... the reason why pilgrims stay there longer because for the duas.... Prophet Muhammad says Allah answers the prayers of those who pray in Arafah during wukuf.... that's the secret...

For those who knows and come prepared, they will not waste any time chatting or doing anything wasteful… the pilgrims will just raise their hands and make duas…. I also did not waste any time but just repeat the duas as many time as possible… 

Family members, friends and neighbours who believe about the secret of wukuf also sent me WA/messages to make duas for them in Arafah… which I obliged and said all their prayers in Arafah… I pray to Allah to grant their wishes… InsyaAllah

Shortly after maghrib prayers we moved to Muzdalifah and after midnight as planned.... we went back to Makkah for our tawaf and saie.... this is the alternative route compared to others who will go straight to Mina for the stone throwing at the jamraat during the tashrik days....

We arrived back in Makkah and went straight to hotel for a quick freshen up and change... then straight back to Masjidil Haram for the tawaf and saie... we thought there will be lesser people since most would be in Mina... but we were wrong... the crowd was as large as you can expect... I completed my saie shortly before the imam start the aidil adha sunat prayers...

My wife decided to perform her tawaf and saie after the stone throwing as she did not want to rush doing tawaf and saie in the early morning... she has to use the scooter as her back pain was quite bad…

I went back to the hotel room and have a good rest before leaving to Mina after asar prayers for the stone throwing during the tashrik days.... 10, 11, 12 and 13 Zulhijjah... our bus left shortly after asar prayer and we arrived at our camp site about 1 hour later... we were lucky as the bus managed to reach right in front of our camp site... but for others who left after us…. have to walk quite a distance to the camp site as the police started to close the road due to the increasing crowd.... we were very lucky indeed... Alhamdulilah...
Mina

Our camp site was rather near to the jamraat... only about 1.5km to the jamraat. Mina is a large place... the place now has been extended up to Muzdalifah to accommodate the large pilgrims of about 4 million people... the longest distance to the jamraat can be about 7 km in a single direction.... can very though for the old, the sick and the weak but they all still walk to the jamraat.... for their obligations....

Mina is a 4-day city in a year... only during the hajj season pilgrims will spend 4 days there... any other time during the year the place is empty .... only have large camp site with huge concrete structures without any inhabitants... during the first 2 days of tashrik the crowd was huge... we have to follow the schedule properly as planned/allocated time... this is to avoid the crowd going to the jamraat getting too large and may cause stampede... the army and the police were very strict during
Walking to Jamraat
this time... the sound of helicopters circling jamraat and police siren was never ending… we completed the first stone throw at jamraat Kubra on the 10th of Zulhijjah (11th actually as we did it in the following night) and followed by the next 3 days for all the 3 jamraats… Sugra, Wusta and Kubra...

Some of the pilgrims chose to do 'nafar awwal' i.e. only 2 days of stone throwing at the 3 jamraats instead of 3 days... my wife and I always chose to do 'nafar thani' i.e. complete the 3 days of stone throwing....

Actually, there is nothing much one can do during the stay in Mina. There are no other obligatory
Rayhar group going to Jamraat
things to do except stone throwing....  and you do the stone throwing once a day... the rest of the day practically do nothing except for obligatory prayers.... for me the extra time that I got, I spent reciting holy Quran as much as possible avoiding wasteful chit chatting with other pilgrims....

During the pilgrimage, one can always see human sacrifices if one sees carefully... next to my bed in the tent in Mina, there was a young man accompany his father performing the hajj... the father is old as well as blind.... I saw how patience and faithful the son serving his father... during meal time, he will get the food for his father, put a napkin on his lap and
In the camp in Mina
watch his father finished the food... after washing the father's hand then only he will get the food for himself... he will hold the father's hand when the old man wants to go to the bathroom... and ensure everything is cared for before sleeping at night…

Walking to the jamraat is actually not an easy task as there are millions of people ... even though the distance is only 1.5 km from our tent but walking can be difficult even for the able body... but the young man never complained pushing his father on the wheelchair to the jamraat... I pray that Allah accepts his good deeds and reward him in the hereafter... 

I had a fulfilling time in Mina... I finished many juzuk of Quran, performed many sunnah prayers and made many duas for myself, family, neighbours and friends... it was rather a mixed feeling when we finished our stone throwing on the 13th day of Zulhijjah... happy that I completed my hajj for the second time but sad knowing that this may be my last time performing hajj... the quota for perming hajj is rather small for Malaysia...

We came back to Makkah on 13th Zulhijjah… somehow the atmosphere was more relax now… everything was calmer… by now every pilgrim can officially be called a haji or hajjah… as they have completed the rituals… the pressure is finally off…

I accompanied my wife for her tawaf and saie… and helped her to cut her hair… thus completing her hajj… her second time as well…

For those who chose the early flight, they started to pack to go home…and for us who arrived late, we will continue with our ziarah luar around Makkah visiting places such as Jabal Thur, Jabal Rahmah, Hudaibiyah Mosque and Muzeum….

Happy faces going to Tanaim
Apart from performing umrah and going the Grand Mosque for the obligatory prayers… things get slower and less crowded by the day except doing last minute shopping and packing to send the extra baggage by courier…

Ustaz Zul always got a lot of ideas... he planned many things for his team...those who stayed at Ritaj As Safwah... something special... he took us to Aziziah town... for shopping and dinner... at first only a few want to join but as the date gets closer, I think all those who stayed at Ritaj tagged along... he also gets the ladies to prepare some special dishes (rewang) and the most important of all... he arranged for visit and
Special treat in Aziziah
donations for the Malays who live in Makkah.... their lives are not easy as Saudi rules prevented them from getting PR even if you stayed there for generations... thus getting a decent job is difficult for them....  

Before one leaves Makkah, it is obligatory to perform tawaf wada’ (good bye)… Ustaz Zul advised that once we have completed the tawaf, one is only allowed to perform solat sunat tawaf and drink zam-zam water and should not do any other things such as selfie… just come back to the hotel and wait to board the bus leaving for Madinah…despite Ustaz Zul’s advice, one pilgrim has to repeat his tawaf wada’ as he has inadvertently took a selfie after completing the tawaf…

Finally, I bade farewell to Makkah as the bus start moving to Madinah… I felt some kind of sadness in my heart as we are leaving Makkah… I do not know when will be my next visit to Makkah… I pray that I will be invited again soon by Allah to His holy land….
Me and Capt Salihin

We left Makkah around 10.00 am and arrived in Madinah around 4.00 pm. The distance between Makkah and Madinah is approximately 450 km using the new highway…. Not much incidence except for the bus’s rear tyre puncture as we were approaching Madinah… the bus driver stopped to look at the tyre and decided to move on…albeit slower…




VIP who joined us during the Hajj

After completing stone throwing

Cikgu Aziz and wife... going back to Makkah

Our camp site in Mina

My wife Nana and BFF Mimi



Hajj 1437H - A beautiful journey...Part 2 - the Journey

Part 2 - the Journey

The departure date for flight KT39B was set on 31 Aug 2016. The journey was for 42 days and we shall be back on 12 Oct 2016. The flight is operated by Saudi Air.

My wife an I had a "small" thanks giving prayers a day before our departure. I thought it was a small gathering of family, friends and neighbours but not realising that we had many... it turns out to be quite a gathering. Alhamdulillah many came to say their prayers and wish for our safety and wellbeing during the journey.

31 August is our National day and so it is a public holiday. We were told to check-in at Tabung Haji Kelana Jaya complex at 6.00 am.  As to avoid the Merdeka day celebration, we decided to leave home at 4.00 am. Since most of our family and neighbours had already met us earlier during the thanks giving prayers, only my children and my mother followed us to Kelana Jaya. The situation at Kelana Jaya as usual, was a bit chaotic but not bad. Tabung Haji who had many years experience in managing pilgrims was always in control.

At Kelana Jaya, the staff from Rayhar were already there to provide assistance to their pilgrims. Even though there are about 400 pilgrims on KT39B, not all are with Rayhar as some are muasasah pilgrims with Tabung Haji. Despite the large number of pilgrims, the check-in was smooth and everything was nicely sorted out. The officials from Tabung Haji kept reminding the male pilgrims to change into ihram attire. This is because we are going straight to Mecca and perform our umrah (for haji tamattu') or hajj ifrat... thus we must be in our ihram attire....

Side note: Unlike the first time we performed the hajj, my children are now grown up. Sobrina is at UIA, Zulaikha is in Australia, Umar is in college in Cheras leaving only Luqman who is in form 1 at home. We only have to make arrangement for Luqman. So we decided that Sobrina will stay at home and commute to UIA everyday, day maid will come daily except on weekend to cook and clean the house, our next door neighbour Kazri and Izan will help to send Luqman to school everyday since they also have a son studying in the same school and Umar will come back home during weekend. Overall Sobrina will be in charged. I banked in some money into Sobrina's account to manage the household...

After a short goodbye and some last words to my children, my mother and family, we proceeded to the check-in area. My wife who did her slipped disc operations 10 ago had to be wheeled chair to the aircraft. Therefore she will be travelling together with other 'disabled' pilgrims to KLIA. Inside the boarding hall, we were given last minute reminders by Tabung Haji about the pilgrimage. Somehow since my wife was on wheelchair, I was separated from her for quite a while in the departure hall only shortly before the departure, I was called by Tabung Haji to meet her who was together with other wheelers.

All pilgrims are given bus number and are called by the bus number to board the bus. However my wife had to traveled in an 'ambulance' since she is considered disabled, thus leaving me traveling alone on the bus to KLIA.

I was always had a mixed feeling during the journey to KLIA. I felt some kind of proud, humble and sad all at the same time. Proud because the VIP treatment given to us as the pilgrims with the police escorted right to the terminal inside KLIA, humble because I am going to fulfil my religious obligation and to seek for forgiveness from Allah and sad as I have to leave my children and family back home.

The flight was on time and it was just like the most flights that I have taken before except on this flight we were reminded that we need to say our niat before we cross the miqat. For pilgrims from south east Asia, the miqat is near Qarnul Manazil...roughly about one hour before arriving to Jeddah... and just before passing the miqat, the cabin crew made the announcement to remind the pilgrims to say their niat... and by now everyone was already in their ihram and must observe the ihram rules...

The flight landed in Jeddah slightly early but we were not allowed to disembark because the terminal was full with other pilgrims who had arrived earlier. So we had to stay in the aircraft until the situation in the terminal eases... After a while we were allowed to disembark using the stairs but my wife and others who were on wheelchairs have to be brought down using the truck lift. We took the bus to the terminal and had to queue to clear the immigration processes... we have to pass through the immigration and after that the ministry of hajj before we were allowed to leave the terminal...

We have to walk for quite a distance to the waiting area reserve for Malaysian pilgrims.... wait for the luagage and bus to take us to Makkah. On the way to the waiting area, I bought sim cards for me and my wife since I need to communicate with our family back home... I bought the sim card from Mobily as I was convinced that it had a good internet coverage as mentioned in their website....but  only to find out later that the service was very poor... you can only do Whatsapp but not Skype or IMO....

The waiting was quite long and the weather was hot...unlike the first time when we were there as at that time was during winter... Tabung Haji ensure all pilgrims are accounted for and once ready ...start calling us to board the bus to Makkah... the journey was rather smooth... no incident... it took about one hour for us to reach our hotel in Makkah... and by the time we arrived it was already at night...

Our hotel name is Ritaj As Safwah.... it is about 350 meters to Masjidil Haram, around Ajyad hills... and the walk to the grand mosque is slightly downhill... after a quick meal and freshen up.... we were gathered to perform our umrah for those who chose to do haji tammattu'... despite being very tired... I must complete the umrah soonest possible as the number of pilgrims in Makkah by that time must be in millions...the place is jammed pack...

I was so eager to set my foot in the grand mosque and look at the Kaabah once again with my own two eyes... it has been more that 10 years since I last saw the Kaabah... I cannot describe my happiness and my humbleness when I saw Kaabah again.... of all the people in the world at that time... Allah invited me to be in His mosque.... tears flow freely from my eyes....

I completed my umrah that night but my wife has to wait a few days until period clears ... by the time she was ready, she was a bit more stronger and able to walk for tawaf on her own but I had to rent a scooter for her to perform her saie between Safa' and Marwah.... we completed the first task of our hajj... and now just wait for the day when the hajj starts.... or called tarwiyah days.... the 5 days for the actual performing the hajj...

We just performed daily prayers at the mosque... read quran and listen to tazkirah and make new friends. (note: we set up a Whatsapp group name Ritaj AsSafwah 2016 and it is very active until today more than 2 year after we came back)... we just enjoy our days there waiting for the next challenge.... Alhamdulillah...

Hajj 1437H.... A beautiful journey...Part 1 - the Preparation

NB. I purposely did not blog anything about the journey immediately after I came back from hajj...I did not even updated my FB... I waited for a while so that I will only write what I remember dearly... however what I did then was to take as many photos of my pilgrimage this time round.... 

Part 1 - the preparation

Actually, this was my second pilgrimage for me and my wife. The first time we performed the pilgrimage was back in 2006 about 10 years ago... We were lucky to be chosen again... Alhamdulillah... to get to go there once is already a great blessing... one cannot image how happy we were when we are selected again to go there for the second time...

I was surprised and very happy when I received a SMS from Tabung Haji to inform that we were selected to perform hajj for this season, 1437H (2016AD).... having been there once, this time I was very determined that I want to perform a better hajj compared to the last one...

Tabung Haji is the body  entrusted by the Government to manage the pilgrims to perform hajj.
Tabung Haji immediately began sending series of messages to prepare the pilgrims for the journey... I really have a deep respect to the Tabung Haji guys... they have always performed their best and received many awards and accolades for that. In fact, when compared to other nations, Malaysian pilgrims are the one that is best looked after in the holy land...(yup...sometime you get angry at them for small reason but that is human after all...hehe)....

Even though the actual journey was in August/September 2016 for 1437H but Tabung Haji started the preparation way back in Feb 16. They started with Kursus Asas Haji or Foundation Course for Performing Hajj...this course is being carried out throughout the nation and is conducted every weekend at selected mosques...in total the duration lasted for about 17 weeks where all aspects of performing hajj were discussed and explained...

One has to note that Muslims in Malaysia are Sunni and we follow the teaching of Imam Shafie or what is called Mazhab Shafie... there are also other Mazhabs namely Maliki, Hambali and Hanafi... Fundamentally all 4 Mazhabs are inline with each other on Tauhid and Aqidah but when come to Fiqh such as solat, hajj, zakat and marriage, there are small difference in the practices. As such, in order to keep the sanctity of the teaching of Imam Shafie, Tabung Haji places a very high importance on correctly performing hajj according to Imam Shafie's teaching... year in year out, Tabung Haji will conduct postmortem at the end of hajj season to understand and solve new problems arose during the last hajj season...

I attended almost all weekly session of the hajj course...simple reason for doing it because I want to
perform a better hajj this time round... honestly I don't think trying to understand how to perform the hajj is difficult, in fact there will be mutawif or religious teacher to guide us when performing the hajj... but the most important thing for me is to mentally and spiritually prepare myself for this holy journey.... I began to understand better the calling for hajj, memorise and recite doas, read al-Quran and perform more solat sunat to prepare for the journey... which I was fully prepared by the time to leave for hajj (I supposed...)...

In Malaysia, those who are selected can perform hajj through muasasah i.e. manage by Tabung Haji or through private operators licensed by Tabung Haji... I chose to go through a private operator... we went with Batuta Travels in 2006 and this time we chose to go with Rayhar Travels... these options are for normal people.... however VVVIPs and people connected with VVVIPs... they can get special visa (not the normal hajj visa given by the Saudis) to perform hajj... (yes... there are special visas issued by Saudi Govt to perform hajj...)

Since I have performed hajj before, and after completing the hajj course both with Tabung Haji and Rayhar, there was not much difference for the whole routine compared to my previous hajj... except this time round, instead of continue going to Mina after "mabit" or spending the night at Muzdalifah, we are to go back to Mecca to perform tawaf and saie to complete the 'rukun'; then only go to Mina to perform the stone throwing at the three jamraat and mabit for three nights... (I always like to perform nafar thani as what told by Haji Ghani of Batuta, there is no better place on earth on the days of tashrik except in Mina). Everything else, the hajj routine is the same...

As the departure date draw nearer, the amount of work in office continue to pile up,,, the staffs want me to approve/endorse as much things before I go off... everyone in the office knew that I will be away for 6 weeks... yes... 6 weeks away from office... for the normal hajj duration, Tabung Haji set approximately 6 weeks or around 38 - 42 days. This is to allow smooth movement during hajj period of about 30 days in Mecca and at least 8 days in Medina... some private operators allows for a shorter duration of between 18 - 30 days but for me, since the opportunity to get the hajj visa for the second and third time round is almost impossible... I am more than willing to stay there the longest possible... 40 days is fine with me. In fact I also spent around 6 weeks for my first hajj...

We chose the late flight to Mecca... actually Tabung Haji divided  the flights into 2 groups.... early and late flights... the early flights will fly the pilgrims direct to  Medina and they will go by bus to Mecca; and they will fly back to Malaysia via Jeddah. The late flights will fly in to Mecca via Jeddah and the pilgrims will go to Medina by bus and fly back to Malaysia via Medina... just the opposite route... the reason why I chose the late flight is because the time waiting for the tarwiyah days is shorter... tarwiyah days are the days pilgrims will move from Mecca to Arafah to Mina and back to Mecca to perform the hajj rituals...usually it is over 5 days starting from 8 Zulhijjah to 13 Zulhijjah... the advantage is the energy level is still high as you have just arrived, hopefully not falling sick and most importantly the spirit is also high... the disadvantage of arriving late... Mecca is already packed by then... 2 million pilgrims or more are already there.. .the movement is very restricted and the space is very tight... you can't even spread your hands without touching other people...

Unlike the first trip, when all our 4 children are still young... Luqman was only 3 years old then... we had a maid to look after them... my mother was also still strong and healthy... she was willing to stay at our house to look after the children... but this time round my mother was no longer in the best of her health and we don't have maid anymore... however only Luqman now is staying in the house... the rest are now in universities.... thus...to overcome the problem... my wife arrange for a day maid to cook and clean during the day, Sobrina the eldest will stay at home and commute everyday to university (she is studying in UIA which is very close by) and Umar will come home every weekend... Zulaikha is far away in Adelaide, nothing much she could do... Our neighbour, Ijan and Kazri volunteer to drive Luqman to school everyday... my sister and sisters in law will come once in a while to check on them... I was really blessed... everything is in placed... no worries...really no worries...